What does Demi Moore, Emily Ratajkowski and Ariel Levy have in common? They all published memoirs lately and has in one way or another advertised for one another. I had seen and noted all three of them, but decided against all three of them, until I bought them all and read them at the same time.
Ratajkowski’ s book I flat out refused to read for her previous feminist statements I felt were complete bullshit. Then something shifted, I read that she wanted to explore her previous statements as she now found them to be wrong and I bought her book right away. Anyone who can admit an error, show growth and change of mind might have some good musings and something useful worth noting.
Ratajkowski mentions Moores book “Inside out” on her nightstand because she enjoyed the book of the co-writer, whom I later found out to be Levy and her book “The rules do not apply”. I found that out on Levy’s instagram where she posted a paparazzi photo of Ratajkowski by the pool with her ass to the camera and the book lying beside her. Moore had also retweeted Rataikjkowskis book on her twitter saying she looked forward to reading it. I bought them both right after, it felt like a full circle.
Now, I’d like to preface this next part with saying that all three memoirs are widely different and has very different tones, introspection and sets out to do completely different things. This was just an interesting observation that I made and wanted to explore and then speak on. I would highly recommend each book but for very different reasons and none of those reasons are based on what I am about to explore. So here we go.
Ratajkowski’ s book is called “My body” and it’s the perfect title for it and it’s a large focus point for most women in one way or another. We cannot circumvent it, no matter how we try. Moore was self-conscious about her body but took control of it, and at times numbed it. Levy spoke about her body as a third person – taking it out for an adventure, it’s workings and uncooperativeness. While Ratajkowski explains dissociating from it completely and using it as a product where she is not present at all. It makes me curious if this is how we have progressed in viewing our bodies over time, is this how we as women have dealt with our body issues, by separating ourselves from them? And more important, does that work? (Cause I might want to try that if it does!) Can we avoid feeling bad about our bodies if they are only our “temporary housing” and not our essence?
Moore was outraged when a director asked her to put ON ten pounds. She had worked so hard to sculpt her body to make herself comfortable in it. I see it almost as painting your walls a color you don’t like – no fucking way am I living in a house with red walls, I want my walls green! Ratajkowski in the majority of the book seems absolutely annoyed and bored with the attention men would give her and how they put their hands on her body. Like a fine piece of art – don’t fucking touch it! While Levy’s came off more as a toy that she liked to play with and sometimes invited others to join. I’ve spent the majority of my life punishing mine with hateful words so I think I might have something to learn from all of these women.
If we take all concepts and create one where we do the proper upkeep on our bodies so they are comfortable to live in, treat it with respect and not let others interfere and in the end remember to have some fun with it, I think we can be on the path to some real body positivity and healing.